Sunday, September 10, 2006

Qualitues to Look For In A Prospective Husband - Part 2

*Continue from previous port, exercise my aching hand*

Qualitues to Look For In A Prospective Husband - Part 2
11) Is he a man I could submit to?
Ephesians 5:25-27
Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless.
(Do take note, this is not slavery but submission. Girls do it willingly and they do it for their husband. Is he mature and spiritually in decision making? Is he able to lead you spiritually? Husband must make wife holy, is all the decision spiritually helping the wife?)

12) Is he a man I could respect? Even fear him?

Ephesians 5:33
However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.

1 Peter 3:5-6
For this is the way the holy women of the past who put their hope in God used to make themselves beautiful. They were submissive to their own husbands, like Sarah, who obeyed Abraham and called him her master. You are her daughters if you do what is right and do not give way to fear.
(Is he a person that you can respect and gives your confident? Is he a person that you fear in a good sense? Just like you love God but at the same time you fear God. Do you have the same feeling from him?)

13) Is he a good steward of his money? Is he willing to provide for his family?
1 Timothy 5:8
If anyone does not provide for his relatives, and especially for his immediate family, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.
(I don't think I need to talk much about this as I believe all of the readers out there will know what is the consequences if their financial are not well managed.)

14) Is he a good steward of his time?
Ephesians 5:15-16
Be very careful, then, how you live—not as unwise but as wise, making the most of every opportunity, because the days are evil.
(Is he using his time spiritually? Or is he spending more time on worldly things? Is he good at managing his time? Is he always late? )

15) Does he keep his life pure?
1 Corinthians 6:12-20
Everything is permissible for me"—but not everything is beneficial. "Everything is permissible for me"—but I will not be mastered by anything. "Food for the stomach and the stomach for food"—but God will destroy them both. The body is not meant for sexual immorality, but for the Lord, and the Lord for the body. By his power God raised the Lord from the dead, and he will raise us also. Do you not know that your bodies are members of Christ himself? Shall I then take the members of Christ and unite them with a prostitute? Never! Do you not know that he who unites himself with a prostitute is one with her in body? For it is said, "The two will become one flesh."But he who unites himself with the Lord is one with him in spirit. Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a man commits are outside his body, but he who sins sexually sins against his own body. Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your body.

1 Thessalonians 4:2-8
For you know what instructions we gave you by the authority of the Lord Jesus. It is God's will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; that each of you should learn to control his own body in a way that is holy and honorable, not in passionate lust like the heathen, who do not know God; and that in this matter no one should wrong his brother or take advantage of him. The Lord will punish men for all such sins, as we have already told you and warned you. For God did not call us to be impure, but to live a holy life. Therefore, he who rejects this instruction does not reject man but God, who gives you his Holy Spirit.
(Does he struggle with his own holiness? Though he know that he can never be perfect but does he still strike for perfection? Does he feel guilt? Blush etc when he commited a sin? How he treat his own sin? Struggle with it? Casually living his life?)

16) Does he loves me enough to die for me?
Ephesians 5:25
Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her
(Is he willing to die for you? Love is selfless.... Sacrificial love... )