Friday, September 29, 2006

Romans...

It is raining heavily at my place... It reminds me of a lot of things... My past specially...
Romans... Romans.... Romans... I am really scare to continue my reading... Trying my best to understand what Paul wants to bring out in that book is seriously a challenge to me... Am I doing that I am suppose to do? There's a saying in the bible... What I ought to do I don't do it, but what I am not suppose to do, I did it all... Human will always be human... Sinning is our "goal" isn't it? Even this very second we are sinning! Our thoughts, our actions, our gesture, our speech, everything!
I used 1 hour plus just to understand Romans 1! Only that one short chapter... I really... Really trying my best to concentrate in the study... I concentrate a lot on verse 18-32... Realised that homosexual is actually not a new term in this century, God has already tell us about it in this few verses! v26-27 (Take note of this... Men committed indecend acts with other men). What troubled me the most is... When God withhold His hand from our life, that's it... You will fall, fall, and fall... Enjoying your sins? Wait until you reach the eternal fire! Trust me, I don't think you can even smile then....
When God gave up on us, His mercy and grace will not be upon us anymore. He gave us to the devil... It is all under His sovereign power that He will save you again... I can never say "You are saved" as I am not God... I can't say "You are hopeless and you can't be saved" to anyone as I am not God... All I know is, salvation is not for all, God choose His people. We will never know who will be save until the time is right. I only hold on to a hope that I will be saved... In order to achieve that, I need to build a strong relationship with God and do what is right.. Strike for perfection and always have faith in Him... And share the gospel!
Actions speaks louder than words... Living a holy life is such a challenge to all... However, I want to put that as my goal... To live a holy life... It is hard... VERY, VERY HARD! Surpressing my own desires with the word of God is really really really hard... Setting your head towards God is always a challenge to me... I know no matter what happened, if I trust in Him, I can go through this.. Moulding stage is always the hardest but after that "wave" God will bless us... We once again got a step closer with God!
May I learn to be more faithful towards Him...

Wednesday, September 27, 2006

Wield the knife

Can a kitchen do well without a knife? Yes, maybe scissors can be a temporary replacement tool to cut things but can it replace the position of the knife? Never... Never ever... So which will you choose? A temporary scissors to cut your foods? Or a knife?
All the while, I thought I was using a sharp knife to cut my foods, however, things doesn't turn out to be so as I realise that I am actually using a scissors! I can really see the effect now... How inefficient I am... God gave me a knife to use in the kitchen and He told me all the benefit of the knife and disadvantages of a scissors. However, God gave me a choice to chose whether I want to use the knife or scissors in my kitchen... *Acting smart* Thinking that I have made the right choice, I told God that scissors is better... What happened next? Inefficiency and ineffectiveness came in the picture...
Who is suffering now? God? Definitely not.... Me, me and me alone.... Who can help to clean up all the mes?? Me? Definitely not... God can... I am really hopeless now... I have nothing in my hand... Absolutely nothing on hand... I only know one thing well... Own desires, that is not according to God's will, need to be cut off... Wield the knife and cut it off... Yes, it is hard... Who doesn't know that... I am experienced it right now... Strength is from God... No one else but Him can help you... I really hope that His grace and mercy will be upon me... Keep me in prayer.. I need much strength to go through this.. May His name be glorify.. Amen..

Saturday, September 23, 2006

Great week =)

Well, well, well.... Looking back at my week... Ahhhhhh...... That is the only expression I can give... Relaxing.... At last I got a break from my hectic working world... Many things happened in my life... There are joys and sorrow... My greatest joy is getting out from Kuala Lumpur and just have fun, fun and fun! I went to a place that I longed to go for quite some time, where? Nah, I am not going to review that =P I am trying to create some curiosity among you all haha...
The thing I hate the most this week is to say goodbye to other people... I was force to said goodbye to many people this week... I always hate to say goodbye specially to those people, whom I know I am unable to see them for quite some time... Hence, I always choose to leave without saying goodbye nor informing, as I myself can't bare the "goodbye situation". Well, I usually inform them after I left the place or person... To me, that is better as I won't need to see others' sad face... Yes, others might think that I am selfish but I really wish to leave a sweet memory in others' head, instead of seeing me crying or blur face...
This week I experienced this feeling twice... Saying goodbye to two person, whom are close to me, is seriously killing me... In addition, I have to said goodbye on Thursday and Friday! CONTINUOUSLY! Well, I do appreciate all those moment together though... It is short, yes, I don't deny that but at least I can sit down and have meals with them and chit chat... Thank God for the opportunity to even meet them in my life!
One of them knows palm reading, hence, mom asked me to allow him to read my palm. Know what he said? Haha.. This is seriously hilarious... The moment he look at my hand... He shook his head, saying this is very complicated... He claimed that my life will not be the same as others... I will have a life that no one will experience... Basically he is trying to paint a picture that I will have a life that is advantagerous. I will only have one marriage (hmmm.. Someone wants to spend his life time with me? Funny...). His personal advice to me... Try not to paint a sad love story next time =P
He claimed that I am a person who has my own set of thinking and once I made up my mind, that will be my direction... Though I quiet down and listen to others but at the end of the story, decision will be made according to my own judgement and thinking.. He is putting it in a nice way of saying me stubborn hahah (hmm... Partially true... I am a very stubborn person but in some situation I fail to be strong...)
Main thing.... He said I am not suitable for business hahaha... I am dead if so... I am studying business! Haha.. He drew out something interesting in my family as well... He said that my mom's family is a categories in the "workaholic" group... Grandma, mom and even anuty are workaholic... *Looking at myself* Emmm.... Hahaha... I have a great time talking to him... Though many can't understand him as he is a japanese but I can understand him quite well, as I am very close to him since young... Very seldom he come to Malaysia... So miss him... Didn't manage to take picture with him and there he goes... He went back to Japan yesterday... Sob...
Hmm... Really great week... I am really happy by experiencing all this things... I am in the process of learning to be obedient... I realise many things lately... Thank God that He opens my eyes... I really wish He will never allow me to go in the dark world myself...

Monday, September 18, 2006

Canon in D

I saw this in my friend's blog... My favourite song.. Canon in D~ I was amazed by this guy! Totally..... AMAZED! Have a look at it... Enjoy the misuc.. A bit rock though...
(p/s the URL is with the = at the back ya... Please put that in the URL ya...)

Friday, September 15, 2006

Kuantan trip (31/08/2006 - 3/09/2006)




Cool camera... Canon PowerShot A80. With its 4.0 Megapixels, the PowerShot A80 can create high-resolution images. Its has a 3x optical zoom, ideal for shooting everything from landscapes to portraits. Approximately 11x combined digital and optical zoom. Easy-to-use Mode Dial with 12 shooting modes such as Auto, Portrait, Landscape, Movie and full manual modes. The PowerShot A80 can automatically detect your subject, even if it's off-center in the frame. Its has a vari-angle LCD that can be twisted in different directions to free you from shooting constraints. It's ideal for shots that require tricky positioning.
(For more information, do visit this website: http://www.digitalsaver.com/stores.asp?productid=9026A001#description)
Thanks to Mike's camera, I manage to catch some cool pictures while I am on a trip to Kuantan on Merdeka day. I am so so so so tempted to get a digital camera of my own... *looking and searching inside my pocket* *head suddenly look forward, with a sad face* *pulling out my pocket* Sigh... Empty.... My dream camera...
The EX-Z1000 has an effective 10.1 million pixels of resolution, captured on a large 1/1.8-inch format, high resolution CCD. Add to this the Exilim Engine high-performance image processor, and the camera delivers highly expressive images and reproduces a wide tonal range. Though small enough to be held in the palm of the hand, the camera also incorporates an impressively large 2.8-inch, Wide and Bright LCD display. This high-resolution, 230,400 pixel LCD displays images and data with outstanding clarity and fine detail. With a maximum brightness of 1200cd/m2, the EX-Z1000s Wide and Bright display makes viewing in bright outdoor light easier than ever before.
Yes, yes, I don't need that precise camera but hey if you are to get a camera might as well get the best out of the best right =P I like the Olympus Stylus SW.. That is super suitable for a person like me... Reason? Shockproof, waterproof, image stabalization mode etc (http://www.olympusamerica.com/cpg_section/product.asp?product=1225) This is super cooL~
Hey... I am going off topic! I am suppose to post pictures that I took using the Canon PowerShot A80... Forgive me for bringing all of you going through my fancy world... Hehe... Ok Ok.. I will post my pictures now and stop my winding =P
This is a view of Taman Gelorah (Not certain with the spelling, so please excuse me ya Kuantan people... And more...
This is actually a park... Normally people will go there to jog, play basketball etc... They even have pony there! I didn't manage to get a picture of that though... Hehe... I got many pictures but I won't post everything here... Take a lot of time for me to upload it... If you want to see the full version of it... Do browse through my friendster photo album, I have put most of the pictures there... *Yawn*
HOLD ON~~~ This two pictures that I am about to post... Is really.... Really... A must see pictures! Hold your breathe now.. Ready?? Scroll down...
A car with such "beautiful" car plat =.=" Look at the road sign... Isn't that extra big? Kuantan people can't really see the road sign that well? Hmm... It looks funny though... And to catch this photo, sir purposely slow down the car jsut to make sure that I got a picture of that road sign.. Haha... Ok la... I think I will post in another post.. It is getting longer and longer.. I think most of you are asleep now after reading my blog =P

What is Love?

A student asks a teacher, "What is love?" The teacher said, "in order to answer your question, go to the padi field and choose the biggest padi and come back. But the rule is: you can go through them only once and cannot turn back to pick"
The student went to the field, go thru first row, he saw one big padi, but he wonders.... Maybe there is a bigger one later. Then he saw another bigger one... But may be there is a even bigger one waiting for him. Later, when he finished more than half of the padi field, he start to realize that the padi is not as big as the previous one he saw, he know he has missed the biggest one, and he regretted!!!! So, he ended up went back to the teacher with empty hand.
The teacher told him, "This is love.. You keep looking for a better one, but when later you realize, you have already miss the person.." "What is marriage then?" the student asked. The teacher said, "in order to answer your question, go to the corn field and choose the biggest corn and come back. But the rule is: you can go through them only once and cannot turn back to pick. "
The student went to the corn field, this time he is careful not to repeat the previous mistake, when he reach the middle of the field, he has picked one medium corn that he feel satisfy, and come back to the teacher. The teacher told him, "this time you bring back a corn.... you look for one that is just nice, and you have faith and believe this is the best one you get.... this is marriage."
Believe...
And as you believe, You will find
Reaching gets easier,
Setbacks get More manageable,
Life becomes More meaningful.

Sich again... Sigh...

Sigh... Sick again... I can hardly breathe as got nose block... Working environment worsen my situation... Air conditioner is too strong over there... Madness... As though it is winter inside that library! Working in the library today is seriosuly challenging my patient.. Got "scolded" by someone as didn't manage to continue the weekly meeting... Got "words" from the manager that really made my day... Thank you for those words... It really help me to stop being a workaholic... Adjusting my duty to the minimum... I am too sick to even want to describe my day.... Lazy to even type...

Got slight fever after coming back from work. The moment I step home, I went to my room and sleep.. Before I ever get to my room, mom bugged me with her flow chart... Asking me to do this and that.. I... Straight away go to my room after giving her some advice.. I can hardly talk.. Flat died...

Fever is no more with me *sigh* Yes, I like fever a lot.. =P BUT NOT RUNNING NOSE! The moment I wake up, mom knocking on my door saying that my cousin is here to seek my help. He is facing SPM trials tomorrow and asking me to help him in his english essays. Asking me to think of points to write as his sister didn't manage to help him. I prayed twice before talking to him as I didn't want to lead him to failure... Really am scare.. I didn't know whether I manage to help him out or not but I told him not to expect too much from me as I am sick and I just woke up. Well, at least I manage to uttered out quite a number of points for him.. Hopefully he manages to get it right and score in the paper. I ate my dinner only at 9 something as helping my cousin...

Tired day.. I can hardly breathe... I want to go out and play~~

Monday, September 11, 2006

Roses

Something that every girls like... Flower... I went through my backup folder and I saw this picture. I instantly fell in love with it... I still remember my first time receiving flowers.... My favourite white rose =D~

I still have the photograph of the roses in my friendster profile =) However, my mom throw away the roses! I actually wanted to put in my room as dry flower T.T

My mom bought some roses for me from Cameron Highland after that =) Hehe now the dried roses is still in my room~

Do ignore me... I am so bored while downloading the sermon. I can't log in MSN, so what else I can do but blog =P

What is this?

What a day... Been looking through some blogs and I was really amaze with one of my friend's blog! He is a super busy person yet his blog is super nice! I didn't view his blog for quite some time now but the moment I step foot in his blog again I was amaze... It is so fun when you got a lot of knowledge of website... Sigh... My dream... I want to play with websites! Teach me!~

Don't know what happened to my connection today. I can't log in MSN T.T I can't even log in to my wordpress site.. I don't know what I did but wordpress actually suspend my account! *Looking at my hands* Wao I didn't know I am that powerful... I manage to make wordpress suspend me! I am dead... However, I didn't waste my time just pressing the "refresh" button... I went to church website and downloaded all the sermon... Yeah at last the thumbdrive is working fine and my computer is able to detect it perfectly! Praise be with the Lord!

Tomorrow will be a hectic day for me... May His words be with me... Allow me to be calm in all circumstances. I don't wish to abase myself by showing off my weakness.... I want to get rid my weakness as much as possible... Can I? I need strength... The lesson that God wants me to learn is a very very hard lesson. Nevertheless, I know I can overcome it as it is not by my might but His. This will be a hard month for me, your prayer is much needed... Many lesson to be learn... My level 2 will be starting soon.... 28th of September 2006.... The first day of my semester. I am the only person who take up Business Computing T.T Sad case... May He leads me! My scholarship is still pending and guess what... Today I just received a letter from APIIT!

Dear LAU SHAN SHANG

You have received this auto-generated notification, due to one or more of the following possible reasons:

1. You have outstanding assessments which have not been completed
2. There is a possible problem with your fee payment status
3. The Programme Leader needs to meet you to discuss matters related to your programme of study

As such, it is important that you call personally at our Administrative Services Counter on Level 1 as soon as possible to meet with our Administrative Executive, so as to enable us to assist you.
We would appreciate it if you would do so within 2 weeks of receiving this notification.
Our Administrative Services counters at TPM are open as per the following operational hours:

Mondays to Fridays - 8.30am to 8.00pm

Should you require further clarification and information, please contact the following:

Ms. Zuliana Tong or Ms. Mumtaaz Begum at Tel. 03-89961000 (APIIT/UCTI TPM)

You may also write in to studentadmin@apiit.edu.my

Thank you.

Hmm... I don't know what to do... Haha.. I did reply the mail asking them to follow up with Mr Anthony for further information... Hai... I waive white flag to APIIT. A "GREAT" college... Very good indeed~

Qualitues to Look For In A Prospective Husband. - Part 3

Qualitues to Look For In A Prospective Husband. - Part 3

Although he may not be an elder or a deacon, the character qualifications listed in 1 Timothy 3:1-12 and Titus 1:5-9 are worthy qualifications for any man even though he may not be a public preacher or teacher. After all he must be a priest in his own home, leading his family in worship before God.

1 Timothy 3:1-12
Here is a trustworthy saying: If anyone sets his heart on being an overseer, he desires a noble task.
Now the overseer must be above reproach, the husband of but one wife, temperate, self-controlled, respectable, hospitable, able to teach, not given to drunkenness, not violent but gentle, not quarrelsome, not a lover of money. He must manage his own family well and see that his children obey him with proper respect. (If anyone does not know how to manage his own family, how can he take care of God's church?) He must not be a recent convert, or he may become conceited and fall under the same judgment as the devil. He must also have a good reputation with outsiders, so that he will not fall into disgrace and into the devil's trap.

Deacons, likewise, are to be men worthy of respect, sincere, not indulging in much wine, and not pursuing dishonest gain. They must keep hold of the deep truths of the faith with a clear conscience. They must first be tested; and then if there is nothing against them, let them serve as deacons. In the same way, their wives are to be women worthy of respect, not malicious talkers but temperate and trustworthy in everything. A deacon must be the husband of but one wife and must manage his children and his household well.

Titus 1:5-9

The reason I left you in Crete was that you might straighten out what was left unfinished and appoint elders in every town, as I directed you. An elder must be blameless, the husband of but one wife, a man whose children believe and are not open to the charge of being wild and disobedient. Since an overseer is entrusted with God's work, he must be blameless—not overbearing, not quick-tempered, not given to drunkenness, not violent, not pursuing dishonest gain. Rather he must be hospitable, one who loves what is good, who is self-controlled, upright, holy and disciplined. He must hold firmly to the trustworthy message as it has been taught, so that he can encourage others by sound doctrine and refute those who oppose it.

Difficulties?

I found this in my computer desktop. I have no idea where I get this though. Enjoy reading.
When we have nothing left but God, we’ll find that God is enough. Under His wings I am safely abiding, Though the night deepens and tempests are wild; Still I can trust Him; I know He will keep me, He has redeemed me, and I am His child. When we endure such times, all we can do—indeed, all we need do—is lie still like a child in the arms of our heavenly Father. Words aren’t necessary. A comforting father doesn’t expect his child to make speeches. Neither does God. He knows we need His soothing care. In times of trouble, His mercy holds us up (Psalm 94:18).
We may trust Him to carry us through that dark night of the soul and on into the dawning light. Have you been passing through a time when you are tired of body and sick of heart? Do you find it difficult to focus your mind on biblical promises? Has it become hard for you to pray? Don’t write yourself off as a spiritual castaway. You are joining a host of God’s people who have experienced the dark night of the soul.
Hudson Taylor (1832-1905) was the founder of the China Inland Mission and a great servant of God. But after the ferocious Boxer Rebellion of 1900, in which hundreds of his fellow missionaries were killed, Taylor was emotionally devastated and his health began to fail. Nearing the end of life’s journey, he wrote, “I am so weak that I cannot work. I cannot read my Bible; I cannot even pray. I can only lie still in God’s arms like a child and trust.”

Sunday, September 10, 2006

Qualitues to Look For In A Prospective Husband - Part 2

*Continue from previous port, exercise my aching hand*

Qualitues to Look For In A Prospective Husband - Part 2
11) Is he a man I could submit to?
Ephesians 5:25-27
Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless.
(Do take note, this is not slavery but submission. Girls do it willingly and they do it for their husband. Is he mature and spiritually in decision making? Is he able to lead you spiritually? Husband must make wife holy, is all the decision spiritually helping the wife?)

12) Is he a man I could respect? Even fear him?

Ephesians 5:33
However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.

1 Peter 3:5-6
For this is the way the holy women of the past who put their hope in God used to make themselves beautiful. They were submissive to their own husbands, like Sarah, who obeyed Abraham and called him her master. You are her daughters if you do what is right and do not give way to fear.
(Is he a person that you can respect and gives your confident? Is he a person that you fear in a good sense? Just like you love God but at the same time you fear God. Do you have the same feeling from him?)

13) Is he a good steward of his money? Is he willing to provide for his family?
1 Timothy 5:8
If anyone does not provide for his relatives, and especially for his immediate family, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.
(I don't think I need to talk much about this as I believe all of the readers out there will know what is the consequences if their financial are not well managed.)

14) Is he a good steward of his time?
Ephesians 5:15-16
Be very careful, then, how you live—not as unwise but as wise, making the most of every opportunity, because the days are evil.
(Is he using his time spiritually? Or is he spending more time on worldly things? Is he good at managing his time? Is he always late? )

15) Does he keep his life pure?
1 Corinthians 6:12-20
Everything is permissible for me"—but not everything is beneficial. "Everything is permissible for me"—but I will not be mastered by anything. "Food for the stomach and the stomach for food"—but God will destroy them both. The body is not meant for sexual immorality, but for the Lord, and the Lord for the body. By his power God raised the Lord from the dead, and he will raise us also. Do you not know that your bodies are members of Christ himself? Shall I then take the members of Christ and unite them with a prostitute? Never! Do you not know that he who unites himself with a prostitute is one with her in body? For it is said, "The two will become one flesh."But he who unites himself with the Lord is one with him in spirit. Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a man commits are outside his body, but he who sins sexually sins against his own body. Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your body.

1 Thessalonians 4:2-8
For you know what instructions we gave you by the authority of the Lord Jesus. It is God's will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; that each of you should learn to control his own body in a way that is holy and honorable, not in passionate lust like the heathen, who do not know God; and that in this matter no one should wrong his brother or take advantage of him. The Lord will punish men for all such sins, as we have already told you and warned you. For God did not call us to be impure, but to live a holy life. Therefore, he who rejects this instruction does not reject man but God, who gives you his Holy Spirit.
(Does he struggle with his own holiness? Though he know that he can never be perfect but does he still strike for perfection? Does he feel guilt? Blush etc when he commited a sin? How he treat his own sin? Struggle with it? Casually living his life?)

16) Does he loves me enough to die for me?
Ephesians 5:25
Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her
(Is he willing to die for you? Love is selfless.... Sacrificial love... )

缺席的新郎

Was shock after reading this E-mail. Please read this...


缺席的新郎----大家一定要看看,祝大家永远健康!

我痛恨自己没有在醒来的时候叫醒他,我心疼的让他再睡一下,他就永远得睡过去了。我最欣赏他的认真负责,成了看不见的杀手, 该怨谁?恨谁?怪谁呢?


我们一起在广告公司玩设计,他的创意、我的完稿、我们的搭配是那么完美,以至于公司的上上下下把我们自然而然的送作堆我喜欢的是他的拼劲,和他曾出不穷的点子,而且,他的幽默会在生活中随时随地出现,每每让我惊喜不止, 却万万没有想到,在我们的婚礼上,他也开了一个最残忍的玩笑

我觉得自己非常幸福,得到这样认真负责又乐观进取的好男人。我们的相识也和他的顽皮个性一般,是充满戏剧化的。刚开始熟悉他的同事,因为,他的点子多而把他称作?梅花鹿?。久而久之,又嫌三个字太拗口,就简称他为鹿

我刚进公司的时候很不习惯,因为我姓陆,在校同学都叫我陆。每次有人叫他,我会下意识的应声。每次有人叫我,他也会笑嘻嘻的答应。他说:你就别叫陆小姐,就叫鹿太太好啦!从此,我就多了一个?鹿太?的绰号,以区别我们两人。

尽管,我心中满不愿意,却又觉得挺好玩的。和他深入交往之后,就渐渐觉得当鹿太太应该是一件很快乐的事。他给我的欢笑,会让我却了烦重琐碎的美工,而觉得手中的完稿,每个表现都新鲜盎然起来

四年的交往,我们情投意合,进而同居三年,却一直发不出喜帖来。并不是我们有意长跑,而是他的职务越来越重要,工作也越来越烦重,我们根本腾不出假期来结婚。他升了官,责任在身,每次比稿都要他领队详细说明产品设计,公司的业务蒸蒸日上,他的个人时间就越来越少,我有时还陪他加班,送点吃吃喝喝的为他补身体。

看他一支烟接着一支烟的抽,心疼的感觉他没办法体会,只说再拼一阵子就好。等存够了钱,我们可以开始自己创业就不必那么累了,我们的创业梦进行得很顺利。公司的老板也非常得器重他,累积的人脉、作品的口碑、得奖的荣誉、以及他谈笑风生的可爱个性,在在为他的事业加分。我觉得自己非常幸福,得到这样认真负责又乐观进取的好男人。我欣喜万分,梦想当新娘的画面早在我心头反反复覆几十遍。

我的怀孕,来得不知是不是时候,从忙碌的工作中,发现不适的异样,检查出来已经三个多月时,我非常的懊恼,认为他这样没日没夜的工作,不该在这个时候烦扰他,但是,他非常开心,当场就大声的说:陆太,嫁给我吧!正正式式的当鹿太吧!全办公室响起如雷的掌声,我的泪也欢喜的夺眶而出七年的爱情长跑,终于要跑上红毯彼端,我欣喜万分,梦想当新娘的画早在我心头反反复复几十遍。

我们趁着肚子没有明显凸出时赶快去拍婚纱照。这家老客户跟他很熟,拍了比别人多三倍的底片,穿的礼服、选的地点、做的表情都是鹿自己设计的,他说一辈子只结一次婚,一定要搞笑一点,让人永远难忘。老板很大手笔送我们二十万的礼金,说是给他的创业基金,从此变成了同行,大家要互相帮忙。

他高高兴兴的答应在婚前完成最后一批比稿设计,我先辞去工作,一则孕吐难过,二则婚前有许多事要忙,他都没时间弄,我就只能为他分担我们家里的事,好让他在公司忙得没有后顾之忧。

他几乎是每天加班到早上六点才回家,迷迷糊糊睡到中午又回公司继续上班。连续一个礼拜终于交出了所有的设计稿,也交接所有的业务,离我们的婚礼只剩下不到三十个小时,我劝他什么是都别管,还是先睡一下吧!我们如何相信一个年轻力壮,从无宿疾的顽强生命,一睡成永眠婚礼。倒数计时的最后一天,他一睡就没有醒过来,他睡了十二个小时,清晨我醒来时,悄悄过去吻他,他的鼻息还非常均匀,可爱的长睫毛还闪一两下,好像在梦中还有什么歪点子一样,我觉得幸福塞满胸臆。漫长的做脸、上妆、弄头发过程,其实他可以不必陪我,弄完我去美容院旁的饭店休息室等他来就可以了。没想到我在饭店等了一个小时,手机和家中电话都没人接,他的亲戚一个也不见,后来,我才知道,他们一到家,发现他已经没有呼吸,连忙送到医院,医生判断是时下流行的过劳死,在连续加班后回家睡觉,一睡就成永眠。

要我如何相信一个年轻力壮,从无宿疾的顽强生命,就这样因为体内长期运作失调,而造成器官内讧,衰竭而死?家人商量着该如何告诉怀孕的我,以及所有准备好大闹一场的同事好友们,喜筵成了非正式的告别式,所有参加婚礼的宾客都忍不住落泪。我呆在新娘休息室,抱着他试穿过的西庄礼服不肯放,我痛恨自己没有在醒来时叫醒他,我心疼的让他再睡一下,他就永远得睡过去了。公司的老板内疚万分,他的父母则伤心得连话都不跟我说一句。我肚子里来不及见到亲爹的孩子,更是一阵阵作呕得提醒我,我最欣赏他的认真负责,成了看不见的杀手,我连恨都没法去恨,该怨谁?恨谁?怪谁呢?

(看完只有一个感想,工作虽然重要身体健康更重要)沉重的话题:一个97级的名校高才生,毕业后进微软的,上月死了,只不过25岁的黄金年龄,珍视自己的生命吧,大家。对自己好一点。

早一点睡,这件事是真的,因为一个朋友就在联旭当设计,死掉的人都还是她熟悉的同事。她同事死前每天加班到早上六点才回家,睡到中午又回公司继续上班,连续五天最后一天睡一睡就没醒过来了,死前都很健康无任何心脏方面的疾病。其实这已经是她们公司第三个过劳死的了,希望大家能随时注意自己的身体状况。

对了,今天听到一个悲伤的消息。广告界的好青年,又挂了一人了。此人是联旭的,是业务还是设计我也搞不清楚,来过我们公司几次。前几天在连续加班后的某晚, 回家睡觉后第二天就叫不醒,挂了。奇的是,约二个月前,也是联旭的一位女生业务,也是这样,不过她是离职后第二天,还是第几天,睡一觉就起不来了。医生说是猝死,推测是过劳。

总之,昨天和前天,晚上九点联旭就全部关灯,大家都不加班了。大家要好好保重身体呢。

发生迹象:原本一向身体健康,时常运动(打篮球)但在近日连续熬夜数晚,经过数日后,突然第二天起床会觉得很疲劳!一闭眼就想睡觉!(跟前一日熬夜的感觉不同),而且会腰酸背痛,但一到晚上精神又好起来!

别以为这是小事!根据中医的看法,是因过劳而造成体内器官阴阳失调,就是体内器官起内讧,互相打架,最后造成器官衰竭而死

医生建议:晚上1000前最好上床休息,中午尽可能睡半小时到一小时的午觉(午睡一小时抵过晚上睡三小时),年轻人一天至少要睡足八小时!

那些经常半夜不睡觉的人!!收到没!收到没!!收到就早点睡啦!还看!

PS.为了大家健康,请转寄给你的朋友~~~谢谢!

晚上9-11点为免疫系统(淋巴)排毒时间,此段时间应安静或听音乐

晚间11-凌晨1点,肝的排毒,需在熟睡中进行。

凌晨1-3点,胆的排毒,亦同。

凌晨3-5点,肺的排毒。此即为何咳嗽的人在这段时间咳得最剧烈,因排毒动作已走到肺;不应用止咳药,以免抑制废积物的排除。

凌晨5-7点,大肠的排毒,应上厕所排便。

凌晨7-9点,小肠大量吸收营养的时段,应吃早餐。疗病者最好早吃,在6点半前,养生者在7点半前,不吃早餐者应改变习惯,即使拖到9、10点吃都比不吃好。

半夜至凌晨4点为脊椎造血时段,必须熟睡,不宜熬夜。

Saturday, September 9, 2006

Qualitues to Look For In A Prospective Husband. - Part 1

Wao terrific week.... A lot of ups and downs.... Now... I want to get serious in this post... Because I will be talking about something spiritual that I learnt in Christian Fellowship. I learnt this quite some time ago but due to some circumstances, I think it is necessary to post this out for my readers, friends, etc...
A short introduction.... Who doesn't long for companionship? Who don't wish to have a person to always be there to support you when you are in trials? A person that pour out unconditional love to you? A person that you can blurt out all your problems and at the same time getting some advice? The list go on and on and on... I think without me saying much most of you all will know what I wanted to convey to you... Yes, you got it right... I will be talking about relationship in this post... Well, there is always a saying that said "Ladies first", so I will be talking about "qualities to look for in a prospective husband" first while "qualities to look for in a prospective wife" in another post =)
Guys, I know this might seems that it doesn't concern you but let me tell you that it is equally important to read it! You can actually take this as a measurement to have a self-check on yourself! Do you have all this qualities? Well, I know it is impossible for everyone to obtain each and every qualities that I stated down here but take this as a challenge for you to be a better guy~
*PLEASE TAKE NOTE*
This is just a guidance for everyone.....
Qualitues to Look For In A Prospective Husband.
1) Does he knows Jesus Christ as Lord and Saviour?
2 Corinthians 6:14-18
Do Not Be Yoked With Unbelievers Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness? What harmony is there between Christ and Belia? What does a believer have in common with an unbeliever? What agreement is there between the temple of God and idols? For we are the temple of the living God. As God has said: "I will live with them and walk among them, and I will be their God, and they will be my people. "Therefore come out from them and be separate, says the Lord. Touch no unclean thing, and I will receive you."I will be a Father to you, and you will be my sons and daughters, says the Lord Almighty."
(It is clearly written in the bible that we should not yoke with unbeliever. However, God gave us free will to chose whether or not to follow His command or not. Which will you chose? To rebel agaisnt Him? To follow after Him? Before you say anything, think twice on your action.... Is there a time where God try to hurt you? It is written in the bible that His plan is to prosper us and never to harm us... Now... Make your decision...)
1 John 2:3-6
We know that we have come to know him if we obey his commands. The man who says, "I know him," but does not do what he commands is a liar, and the truth is not in him. But if anyone obeys his word, God's love is truly made complete in him. This is how we know we are in him: Whoever claims to live in him must walk as Jesus did.
(Always be careful.... Specially girls... Knowing girls, we always tend to take guys' word for granted as we "love" them... However, claiming yourself as a Christian doesn't mean you are a Christian! Always remember that! How to know whether is he a true Christian? Look at the following.)
1 Corinthians 2:12-14
We have not received the spirit of the world but the Spirit who is from God, that we may understand what God has freely given us. This is what we speak, not in words taught us by human wisdom but in words taught by the Spirit, expressing spiritual truths in spiritual words. The man without the Spirit does not accept the things that come from the Spirit of God, for they are foolishness to him, and he cannot understand them, because they are spiritually discerned.
(Does he act like a Christian? Is the spirit of God with him?)
Romans 8:12-17
Therefore, brothers, we have an obligation—but it is not to the sinful nature, to live according to it. For if you live according to the sinful nature, you will die; but if by the Spirit you put to death the misdeeds of the body, you will live, because those who are led by the Spirit of God are sons of God. For you did not receive a spirit that makes you a slave again to fear, but you received the Spirit of sonship. And by him we cry, "Abba, Father." The Spirit himself testifies with our spirit that we are God's children. Now if we are children, then we are heirs—heirs of God and co-heirs with Christ, if indeed we share in his sufferings in order that we may also share in his glory.
(Is he born again? Or is he still in his sinful nature? Does he follow the pattern of the world?)
Jeremiah 31:33-34
"This is the covenant I will make with the house of Israel after that time," declares the LORD. "I will put my law in their minds and write it on their hearts. I will be their God, and they will be my people. No longer will a man teach his neighbor, or a man his brother, saying, 'Know the LORD,' because they will all know me, from the least of them to the greatest," declares the LORD. "For I will forgive their wickedness and will remember their sins no more."
(The moment that a person is born again, God will be with him. The center of his life will be God and nothing else.)
Ezekiel 36:25-27
I will sprinkle clean water on you, and you will be clean; I will cleanse you from all your impurities and from all your idols. I will give you a new heart and put a new spirit in you; I will remove from you your heart of stone and give you a heart of flesh. And I will put my Spirit in you and move you to follow my decrees and be careful to keep my laws.
Hebrews 10:14-17
because by one sacrifice he has made perfect forever those who are being made holy. The Holy Spirit also testifies to us about this. First he says: "This is the covenant I will make with them after that time, says the Lord. I will put my laws in their hearts, and I will write them on their minds." Then he adds: "Their sins and lawless acts I will remember no more."
2) Does he display the fruit of the Spirit in his life?
Galatians 5:22-23
But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law.
(Love - Did he show God's love? Does he loves himself as who he is? Does he loves people around him, including his enermy? Or he have selected people to love? A Christian should love everyone as themselves. Pouring out God's love to everyone around him. Is he doing that?
Joy - He should feel fulfilled and contented in themselves.
Peace - When problems come, what is his first action? Panic? Rush? Or calm down, stop and pray?
Patient - How he deal with people? Do he see the same value in children as adult?
Kindness - Out of own nature, is he kind?
Goodness - Helping people regardless of status, age, gender etc. If he doesn't like something, will he act cruelly as he doesn't like it?
faithful - Is he faithful or is he a person who go according to the "wind" direction?
gentleness - Is he gentle? Does he knows in which situation he should be soft?
self-control - Is he good at controlling himself? His anger, temptation etc)
3) Does he have a hunger and a thrist for God's word? Does he read it and study it? Is it the foundation and framework of his thinking?
Psalm 19:7-11
The law of the LORD is perfect, reviving the soul. The statutes of the LORD are trustworthy, making wise the simple. The precepts of the LORD are right, giving joy to the heart. The commands of the LORD are radiant, giving light to the eyes. The fear of the LORD is pure, enduring forever. The ordinances of the LORD are sure and altogether righteous. 10 They are more precious than gold, than much pure gold; they are sweeter than honey, than honey from the comb. By them is your servant warned; in keeping them there is great reward.
2Timothy 3:15-17
and how from infancy you have known the holy Scriptures, which are able to make you wise for salvation through faith in Christ Jesus. All Scripture is God-breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting and training in righteousness, so that the man of God may be thoroughly equipped for every good work.
2 Timothy 2:15
Do your best to present yourself to God as one approved, a workman who does not need to be ashamed and who correctly handles the word of truth.
John 8:30-32
Even as he spoke, many put their faith in him. To the Jews who had believed him, Jesus said, "If you hold to my teaching, you are really my disciples. Then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free."
Titus 2:5
to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God.
(Is he always lead by feeling or God? Does he make decision based on God's word or own desires?)
4) What are his goals? Are they to glorify God and does he delight in Him? or are they self-focused; for example, on a successful career or financial success?
1 Corinthians 10:31
So whether you eat or drink or whatever you do, do it all for the glory of God.
Psalm 37:4-6
Delight yourself in the LORD and he will give you the desires of your heart. Commit your way to the LORD; trust in him and he will do this: He will make your righteousness shine like the dawn, the justice of your cause like the noonday sun.
5) Does he realise that the sins of the parents are cisited on children, and the reason, purpose and implications of that?
Exodus 20:5
You shall not bow down to them or worship them; for I, the LORD your God, am a jealous God, punishing the children for the sin of the fathers to the third and fourth generation of those who hate me,
Exodus 34:7
maintaining love to thousands, and forgiving wickedness, rebellion and sin. Yet he does not leave the guilty unpunished; he punishes the children and their children for the sin of the fathers to the third and fourth generation.
(Does he realise his family weakness and take the effort to change it?)
6) Will he be able to be my spiritual leader?
1 Corintians 11:3
Now I want you to realize that the head of every man is Christ, and the head of the woman is man, and the head of Christ is God.
(Good husband will be the one who looks at spiritual things rather than worldly things. If he didn't even knows his own mistakes, will you want to submit to such person?)
7) Will he knows how to apply God's word in my life to sanctify me?
Ephesians 5:25-27
Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless.
8) Does he love to meet with God's people?
Hebrews 10:24-25
And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds. Let us not give up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but let us encourage one another—and all the more as you see the Day approaching
9) Is he faithful? Does he keep his word no matter what it costs? Does he do what he says he will do?
Luke 16:10
Whoever can be trusted with very little can also be trusted with much, and whoever is dishonest with very little will also be dishonest with much.
10) Does he seek the good of others or does he just look out for his own interests?
Phil 2:3-4
Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit, but in humility consider others better than yourselves. Each of you should look not only to your own interests, but also to the interests of others.
(Is he giving you the same treatment as others? If yes, then it is a good thing. It showed that he is consistence in his attitude. Love should be spiritual first then only passion)
* I will continue this in another post.... Next time... *